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Love is in the air. Everywhere I turn, the conversation is love. Radio shows are covering it. Magazines are covering it. Everyone is talking about it. Just the other day, a friend of mine on Myspace posted a blog asking the question: What do women want?

Since I did so well with my list of things women want on the Jared and Dean Words Cause Radio Show, I figured that I would share the whole list. These are all fairly simple things to do. The big question is whether you can consistently do all of these things. One of the problems I run into myself is that I don’t consistently do all of these. I’ll do one or two for a week and then another one or two. I’ve found that the key to success is to maintain all 10, consistently.

These 10 tips are not cookie cutter solutions like buying flowers or leaving a romantic note. While those are both examples of things that may earn you some points in your relationship, women are looking for something much deeper than a romantic flower killer.

Here’s what women want (remember, there is no particular order to any of these. You need to do ALL of them):

•  A man who listens. He’ll give advice when needed. Otherwise, he’ll just listen. An important thing here is that you really need to listen carefully because often times she is not going to just come straight out and tell you that she wants advice. It will be cleverly disguised in the conversation that she wants advice. This means you must listen intently!
• A MAN not a boy. This one always gets people. The knee jerk reaction is thoughts about men from “The Man Show” or knuckle dragging, beer guzzling, losers who watch ESPN while wearing a wife-beater with beer and food stains from five years ago. Here’s the thing. The Man Show is a cliché of manhood designed to entertain people and create ad revenue for a television station and catapult the careers of Jimmy Kimmel and Adam Carolla. It did a fine job at both of those, with Jimmy hosting a late night talk show and Adam hosting one of the largest syndicated radio shows in America.

  What I’m referring to with the desire for a man vs. a boy is that men are not clingy, needy, or obnoxious. The obnoxious part really comes from the teenage boy part of our lives. Some of us never seem to outgrow that scared teenage syndrome, so we keep lashing out at the stuff we don’t understand.

  There is a certain amount of sensitivity that a man does need to have. A man should cry under any of the following situations: loss of a close family member, loss of a motorcycle or other important recreational vehicle, when his son or daughter makes him proud, when watching Rudy or perhaps even a chick-flick.

  A man should not cry under these kinds of situations: when someone is mean to him, when his favorite sports team loses (unless you are actually on the team, you shouldn’t cry. It’s just a game that you weren’t even playing!), when he stubs his toe, or when his clothes begin to fade in the laundry.

  Yes, a real man does laundry. If he’s lucky enough, he doesn’t have to! But the only woman who should “have to” do your laundry is your mom. Moms do a boy’s laundry, not a man’s!

• Flirtation. This is probably the one that I have the biggest problem with. Women love their man to flirt with them, just not other women. I’ve got the first part down, and I’m starting to get the second part down! If you have been listening to her and have a solid testosterone undertone, you’ll know exactly how to flirt with your woman. And this is going to drive her wild. It’s a surefire way to keep the relationship exciting!

Where’s the rest of the list? It will be published right here on Words Cause over the next couple of weeks. Something to remember is that these 10 things can be used for good or for evil. Use them responsibly, and enjoy your relationship.

 

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